Psst… Here’s a spiritual secret: Infinity is the opposite of Insecurity.
Insecurity is Normal.
Hey, you’re just a human. You’ll make mistakes, especially when trying something new. It is true failure happens sometimes, as does embarrassment and shame. So you’re not crazy for feeling insecure, and a certain amount of it is normal. But…
Insecurity is also a Tragedy. And a Selfish One That.
Have you ever met someone who was really smart, talented, with a great sense of humor and so much to give, but they were their own worst enemy? All dreams and no action, totally stuck?
This unfortunate and perfectly nice person was probably held prisoner by their own thoughts. Thoughts like: “What will they think of me?” “What if I screw this up?” “I’m sure someone else can do it better than me…” “I bet I’ll make someone mad & they’ll say something mean about me.” “I’m not good enough.”
Oh Lordy… Look at all those “me”s and “I”s! The cruelest part of insecurity is that a lot of people who really want to make the world a better place & express their gifts and creativity DON’T because of this misplaced focus on themselves. If you are a do-gooder type let this be the final motivation to vanquish your insecurity. Don’t let your insecurity selfishly keep you from sharing your gifts!
We’re at an all-hands-on-deck moment of time right now. There are crises at every level from school board to planet. There is so much work to be done.
You were born for a reason, and there are gifts only YOU can give: your unique combination of talents, personality, experience and context. The Universe is begging, just begging for you to give your gifts. And trust me, giving them will make you happier too.
(BTW, this connection to infinity is what yoga is all about. Yoga means “yoke,” as in, you’re trying to connect, or yoke, your finite self to your infinite self. The result is less personal suffering and the opportunity to live a life of Divine service and happiness.)
Don’t worry if it sounds impossible, it is actually pretty easy.
The Insecurity Crisis Kit
The next time your insecurity is getting in the way of something you really know you should do, try this:
1. Take a few breaths and be with the insecurity. Feel the truth of what these thoughts say. Remember these thoughts wouldn’t be so compelling if there wasn’t some truth to them (buried under the fear and catastrophizing)!
Use these truths to inspire you to be humble, but remember Right Action isn’t about you personally, so don’t let personal fears derail it.
2. From this feeling of humility connect to something bigger than yourself. If you’re religious you can connect to God, if you’re spiritual to the flow and mystery of the Universe, if you’re neither to the awe-inspiring vastness of the universe and science and time.
3. From this elevated space turn your attention back to the situation. Bow in service to the situation. You’re wanting to do this thing that scares you for a reason. What is that reason? Who are you helping and what is the highest outcome of the situation? Focus on that. Make a prayer or intention that this highest outcome will come to past and then ACT.
The yogic test for Right Action is this: Are you uplifting yourself? Are you uplifting others? If you can answer “yes” to both you won’t go too far off the rails.
Remember, Wether it “works,” & how people react: not your problem. You’re human, you’re small, and the big picture is the Divine’s responsibility. Don’t even TRY to control outcome. Just show up and do your best.
I can personally say this works. It brings an almost instant feeling of inner relief. If I ever have to speak in public, I do this first so I can make it through with only minor heart palpitations.
I’ll give you another example from my own journey.
I’m an introvert, and when I started my practice I was literally AFRAID of new clients. I would think things like: “Will they be nice to me?” “What if they don’t like me or what I do?” Etc.
Trust me, this is a horrible train of thought when you’re trying to motivate yourself to market your business!
What really helped me turn this nervousness around was to consciously replace these me-oriented thoughts with something focused on my potential new clients and **how I could help them.**
I’d mentally say something like, “God, please help me find the clients who can really benefit from what I offer”, or if I was nervous right before a massage, I’d take a few deep breaths and think, “Please let this massage be exactly what this person needs today.”**
When you’re Humble and in Service, you can be incredibly powerful.
In yoga we say, “you have to bow to command.” When your ego bows to your Soul, Divine power flows through you. At it’s highest, this is a merger of your finite self with Infinite direction. It’s something we see in great saints and healers throughout time. Hearts are changed, mountains moved.
But you don’t have to be a saint, you can use this technique on a mini level to add more sacredness, healing, and happiness to your life.
I hope you do.
**I have to give credit to Heart of Business and Mark Silver. They taught me this technique as part of their heart centered business coaching program. I’m incredibly grateful. And the fact that it fit so well with yogic teachings, how cool!